I know its taboo to talk about, but my wife and I have been reading the book “How to Talk to Your Child About Sex” by Linda and Richard Eyre over the last little bit and I have found it thought provoking. 

Sex and the “BIG TALK” is such a sensitive subject, but does it really have to be? 

Why do we find it so embarrassing to talk to our children about such a natural and beautiful thing?

I like how the book says that we are so much more likely to talk about violence or drugs then we ever are to about sex, but that sexual promiscuity will likely be much more damaging to their development then the influence of drugs or even violence.

So, it leaves us with a few scenarios: we can keep brushing this “sensitive” topic under the rug, and then they will learn about the “birds and the bees” from media, and their immature peers which obviously will be disastrous.

Or we could teach our children. But even if we are teaching our children, are we teaching them the right way?

Because if we teach ONLY the harms of sex, STD’s, teenage pregnancy, and about all the RULES of being chaste. They will most likely develop with a negative perception of sex. Like it is something dirty, carnal, and sinful.

This leads to disorders that prevent our children from ever developing a healthy sexuality, which will lead to a host of other problems, especially in their future romantic relationships.

But, what if we taught them about sex in a very positive light? And this is exactly what me and my wife like the most about this book. It says we need to let them know that, when done correctly within a committed, loyal relationship (marriage), sex can lead to some of the most miraculous gifts and experiences that we can have on earth.

Anyways, I totally recommend the book. 

Now all I have to do is put the book into practice. So, my wife and I are making a plan of how to give the “Big Talk” to my oldest son which will be an ADVENTURE. Basically, he has a grand mal seizure anytime the subject of love, romance, or kissing comes up. So that’ll be fun. Wish me luck!